Let's face it, cancer is a family
affair. While only one in the family may be afflicted, most of the
immediate family becomes intimately involved. And within that group,
there is usually a specific person designated as the “caregiver,”
the one who watches and monitors all the daily activities of the
patient.
These responsibilities include the administration of medications, the changing of wound dressings and visiting the the doctors with the patient, to name only a few.
These responsibilities include the administration of medications, the changing of wound dressings and visiting the the doctors with the patient, to name only a few.
Often, the caregiver has a better grasp
of what the patient needs than the patient. This
makes sense because the patient may be on several medications, is
faced with fatigue and simply has a lot on his or her mind. Further,
in my case, I was really "out of it" for several days after my initial surgery, so
Vida, my caregiver, had to stay informed on what was going on. She also made the necessary preparations prior to my release for my homecoming which involved making sure the proper equipment was in place, like the oxygen tanks, the suction machine and the nebulizer.
I was also unable to drive for several
months after the surgery and had to go to the hospital for 7 ½
weeks of radiation and chemotherapy treatments. In addition to these, periodic doctor and
therapist appointments were constantly required.
From the day I went home in March, Vida
has kept daily records of every medication I take throughout the day,
the time they were taken and the dosage. Often, this was needed when
we went back to the doctor for a medication review. We easily knew what was
taken and how many of each. The doctor was then able to determine
what changes may have been required. The records were also used once when we
were told to call for an ambulance due to a reaction I was having.
The paramedics needed to know precisely what I had been taking.
We had a visiting nurse when I got home
in March as well. She would take my vitals, check on the wounds from
surgery and report back to the doctors on anything unusual. Insurance
cut her off after a few visits, so she spent time showing Vida how to
change the dressings and went over the supplies we would have
everything we needed.
Caregivers also give emotional support.
The title of this blog is the cancer roller coaster and the caregiver
follows the same ups and downs as the patient. But since they were
not on medications, recovering from surgery or undergoing serious
treatments, the caregiver tries to stabilize emotions of the patient and when he or she is feeling down, they will try to build me back up. Likewise, they jump at the opportunity to celebrate the triumphs as well.
A positive attitude is one of the key components for a successful recovery, so even if Vida was down, she would have to do her best explain all the good that is happening despite any brief dips. And she demonstrated her care for me by doing just that.
Cancer is a difficult disease to deal with. As much as the patient may try not to think in that direction, the possibility of death comes into sight, even if the cancer was not considered terminal. The caregiver knows this, and Vida knew this. Every time the roller coaster takes a dip down, a certain fear factor sets in. The patient and the caregiver need to come to terms with this and support one another. There isn't any choice but to make the most of any situation that comes along. That's simply what we have to do.
ChooseHope.com offers a framed
caregivers poem that I got for Vida as a gift. The poem reads:
Thank you for standing by me and lending an
ear.
For helping me out by just being near.
For helping me out by just being near.
Thank you for cheering me on or saying a
prayer.
For holding me up and showing you care.
For holding me up and showing you care.
Thank you for making me laugh and giving me
hope.
For showing support and helping me cope.
For showing support and helping me cope.
Thank you for all that you've done and all that
you'll do.
I am so very fortunate to have someone like you!
I am so very fortunate to have someone like you!
Written by: Linda Nielsen- Choose Hope, Inc.
Copyright 2000